Posts Tagged ‘maturity’

Correcting a mistake….

April 14, 2013

and I were having a conversation about the do’s and don’ts of telling someone that they are wrong.

I learnt how to correct someone, without making them feel small, from . I’d made a mistake (I can’t remember what it was). Instead of pointing out my mistake in her reply comment, which she so easily could have, she sent me an email, *suggesting* that I might be mistaken, and giving the correction.

I learnt this valuable lesson from her, and now I follow the same practice. And whenever I am corrected in public, and made to feel small, I thank . I try, when I correct someone, to say, “in my opinion” it may be x not y…or that *perhaps* its x not y… dictum sapienti sat est…a word to the wise is sufficient.

Prashanth said that when he was in college, one of his teachers made a statement that was wrong. He went later to the teachers’ room and talked to her about it, couching his correction in respectful terms. She later announced to the class that she had been mistaken, and that he’d set her right. Later, when he was in danger of failing the subject she was teaching, having forgotten the same solution, she helped himm and…he just about passed the exam!

It’s quick and easy to point out others’ mistakes. However, with a little effort, one can do so and yet retain the goodwill of the relationship.

I know several people (and I am thinking of one particular individual!) who will never praise, but is quick to point out mistakes…always in public! The irritation I feel in being corrected like this is often difficult to swallow…so, A…thank you for the valuable lesson! And PC…at 22, I think it was awesome that you didn’t use the correction as an opportunity to score off your teacher…that’s real good-heartedness and maturity.

Age, and maturity

September 27, 2011

I don’t know why my blog (Live Journal) suddenly opened at the same date, but it did, and

here

is what I wrote, 3 X 365 days ago!

Still working on it….yes, a little more acceptance, but not enough!

From a forward I got…

October 17, 2007

Never make someone a priority in your life
When you are an option in their life.
Relationships work best when they are balanced.

When you keep saying you are busy,
Then you are never going to be free.
When you keep saying you never have time,
Then you will never have time.

So true. It is a mark of maturity to realize these things, rather than type them out!

I *hate* telling anyone, “I am too busy for you”, but I have caught myself saying this once or twice lately. That means only that I am not organized enough. If I don’t have time to call someone, or spend a little time with them, then, either I am no longer close to them, or I need to re-organize…

The two are different..

September 27, 2007

Age is one thing, maturity quite another.

When will I get the maturity to accept the things that have bothered me….friendships that are over, lack of understanding from even close ones sometimes, the fact that dead people will never be around again…what should be simple to accept is NOT.

I keep trying to grow as a person, but with such limited success. Calmness vanishes, emotions rule, I lose my peace of mind.

Truly, the most difficult conquests are those within ourselves.